LEAD WITH YOUR HEART & TRUST YOUR GUT

The news that you’re pregnant is life-changing and very exciting to share with our friends, neighbors, families. Ideally, your band has a loving and supportive vibe and your team has your back. We always hope that our friends and colleagues will be thrilled and supportive, but people are complicated, and business can be too.

Check out these tips for the breaking the big news to your music collaborators & business partners.

Consider Your Collaborators

Who will be impacted by your pregnancy? The answer will vary on your particular circumstances. Are you a side-musician or band leader? Are you about to launch a major release, or are you in the process of writing your next album? Understanding what your pregnancy means to the business of the music project will help you prepare for the conversations with your collaborators.

Breaking the News to Your Bandmates

People love babies! It’s likely that your bandmates will be thrilled, and also have questions. To ease any concerns, come to the conversation ready with an idea of how you want to handle the logistics. For example, if you’re the band leader you may need to adjust the touring schedule to make space for your maternity leave. If you’re a support musician or hired-gun there’s more flexibility. The band can hire a sub for tours or other critical business obligations scheduled for late in your pregnancy or during your expected post-birth recovery.

Telling your bandmates should be the fun part! If it turns out that you don’t feel supported, you should do some deep thinking about whether to keep investing your time into the project. It will not get easier when you have a baby.

Breaking the News to Your Manager

Managers should be able to help with planning around your pregnancy. Remember that managers are hired to grow the business no matter the challenges or opportunities that present themselves. A good manager should be able to help think through the logistics and priorities. Make them a partner in adjusting your touring and recording schedules, and creating your maternity leave plan.

Breaking the News to Your Booking Agent

The sooner you tell your booking agent, the better. Enlist your Booking Agent in planning around black-out dates and creating more pregnancy-friendly routing and riders. Consider what you’re willing to do while pregnant and when you will need breaks.

A few examples:

• On certain weeks, you will need to be home for regular maternal care and check-ups.
• Shorter drives become essential on tour if you’re touring pregnant.
• Air travel is not recommended beyond 36 weeks of pregnancy.
• By 38 weeks, you will want to stay close to your doctor and hospital.

This might feel like a big deal, but it’s really just a few months and can be summarized as a few restrictions and black-out dates. (Find more tips for touring while pregnant here)

Breaking the News to Your Record Label

Telling your record label you’re pregnant may be the trickiest of all the talks. If you have a manager, let them handle sharing the news with the label. If not, consider what impact your pregnancy will have on upcoming releases, tours, and promotions and time your announcement carefully.

In an ideal world, it wouldn’t be an issue, but the reality is that there are still roadblocks to clear on how the music industry perceives musicians and measures the risk of investing in them. You will want to re-assure the label that you’re still committed touring, promotions, and any other contractual obligations. This is especially true if they have made a significant investment in the project and you’re a critical member.

Consider what point you’re in with negotiations or your album release schedules and what impact the news might have on how that shakes out.

AND FINALLY… CONGRATULATIONS!

Have tips of your own to add? Have more questions? Drop me a line or let me know in the comments!

Keep on making that music, Mama!

Love always,

Ani

Disclaimer: I share my story and hope that it’s helpful, but I’m a musician – not a physician. Every person, baby, and pregnancy is unique.  Please consult with your doctor on what is right for you and your baby.

Hey, Mama.  Do you feel like you don’t have enough time for your music lately? Here are 10 tips to help you find the time for keeping up your craft and creative output. 

As musicians and parents, time can become a very scarce resource. Sometimes it’s hard to see how to fit it all in. I’ve been through the struggle and I’m here to help with tips for making music consistently after becoming a mamá. No matter what stage of parenting you’re in, there’s always a way to make it work.

Here are ten things to consider when you’re feeling short on time for making music.

1. Set a Schedule

Identify some windows of time you have available and make it standard to use those times for music.  For example, you may find a few hours during nap times, after kid bedtime, or on specific days dedicated to music while someone else watches the kid(s).  If you work/rehearse from home, it may be that you need everyone to clear out for an hour or two on a given day or consider additional child care. See my article with tips for affordable Baby Sitting If you are consistent about it, you will find it easier to maintain, as it becomes part of the family routine.  

2. Don’t Talk Yourself Out of It

There may be a voice in your head that says you are too tired, or you should do the dishes or throws any other myriad of obstacles in your way. Commit to showing up anyway and put it the work. You don’t have to have a brilliant inspired session every time, but you do need to show up for yourself.  And if you’re feeling guilty, remember that making time for yourself is essential for your mental health, which is ultimately good for the whole family.

3. Understand Your Goals

Consider what it takes to make you feel fulfilled as a musician, and what your current commitments are.

Are you a band leader who is also engineering an album? Are you a side musician in several bands? Do you lead a band and sometimes work as a side musician? Do you need to pay your bills with music, or do you have a day job or some other way to pay the bills?  Depending on the answers, your needs will be different.

Some musicians need to be playing lots of gigs. Others would rather have a day job and make their original music even if it’s not as reliable an income. As a drummer and songwriter/band leader, I’ve had periods in my life where I’ve been in two or three bands at once. Some paid the bills and some had my heart.  There have also been times where I’ve decided to stop all my side-musician work and focus on my solo project because it needed my full attention. The important thing is to figure out what your musical priority is, and to make sure you’re holding space for it.

4. Prioritize Your Passion

Making time for music means letting some other things go.  Don’t let un-important things steal your time.  Only you can decide how that looks in your life.  For example, I rarely watch television and I only go to the movies a few times a year. If I have a few extra hours, I would rather spend them making music. It’s ok to not do all the things.

5. Get Your Gear In Order

Having all your gear ready to just switch on and start playing is a huge help. You don’t want to spend your precious music time fiddling with cables and equipment. If you don’t have a dedicated space for making music, do what you can to optimize your setup and break down time. This will help you maximize the time spent playing or creating. 

6. Declare Your Deadlines

I find it helpful to set goals to work towards.  It might be a release date, or a date by which I will have completed some other creative project or task related to maintaining my music business.  Setting deadlines, writing them down, and talking about them with friends goes a long way to keeping me motivated and accountable. Once you have a big goal set, break down the little steps to get there and make sure you’re making progress each week. 

7. Stretch Your Timelines

Understand that the more plates you have spinning, the longer things take.  If it used to take you six months to complete an album, with a kid it might take a year or more.  Adjust your expectations, and be gentle with yourself if you have to give yourself multiple extensions.  As a songwriter, I used to aim for an album release every other year.  Now, it takes me about one year to write the songs, one year on production, and one year on marketing. 

8. Know What Season You’re In

There will be moments where you need more time for your music. If you’re working on a new album, you might need extra focus and time to get it across the finish line. When you’re rehearsing for a tour, you might need to spend more time on rehearsals. Make sure to let your friends and loved ones know what season you’re in.

I have long stretches of time when I see my friends less, and rely on my partner to do more of the heavy lifting at home. Good friends and partners will be understanding and support you, as long as you communicate.  My partner is also an artist, so we organically take turns with one of us focusing intensely on our projects and the other holding down the fort. When I finish a project or major milestone, I catch up with friends, lean into the household tasks and make time for “regular life.”

9. Simplify Your Life

A few years ago, I decluttered my life and was shocked by how much extra time it gave me each day. Streamline whatever you can to create more time for music and intentional living. There are countless ways to rescue time from your days. Banishing the clutter, automating your bills, creating routines, reducing commute times, stacking your tasks, and even wearing the same kind of clothes every day or cooking the same meals most weeks will save brain power and time.   

10. Keep Up Your Connections

It’s easy to get steamrolled by mama-life and become an accidental shut-in. Don’t forget to keep up with other musicians, and stay up to date on what’s happening in your music scene.  Networking is incredibly important in terms of keeping doors open and helping you find new opportunities. Make it a point to go to shows, and support other musicians. It will keep you motivated and inspired. If you can’t make it out right now, stay in touch by email or on social media. Even small gestures to stay connected can have a huge impact.  

Have a different idea that you recommend?  Share it in the comments! 

Keep on making that music, Mama!

Love always, 

Ani